You Don’t Have to Forgive an Abusive Parent On Their Deathbed by Bobbi Dempsey

This article offers an insightful look into closure and forgiveness. In particular, author Bobbi Dempsey writes about choosing not to reconcile with her abusive father at the time of his death:

“Being pressured or forced to reconcile with an abusive figure just because they are dying, or to attend the funeral of a person who inflicted abuse and trauma on them can often end up feeling like a cruel form of group-gaslighting…Doing so means essentially erasing the trauma, abuse, or mistreatment suffered at someone else’s hands. So, please, though you might mean well, don’t do that to anyone. It just adds more emotional pain and stress to what they’re already carrying.”