“The more I accept exactly what the situation is…the better off I am. Reality is in the present, not the past. I notice, more and more, there is a certain kind of mourning that goes with letting go of the illusion and seeing that the relationship is not what I thought it was going to be…” From Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery
A study featured in the November 2018 edition of Journal of Personality and Social Psychology describes why people choose to stay in bad relationships. Lead author Samantha Joel explains:
“Previous research shows the amount of time, resources and emotion invested in a relationship can be factors in deciding to end a romantic relationship…a person may opt to remain in an unfulfilling relationship if the alternative — being alone, the available pool of partners, etc. — seems less appealing.
In those cases, deciding to stay or go was based on self-interest…the new study shows the first evidence that decisions about an unsatisfying romantic relationship may involve an altruistic component.”
Read the findings here