There is a fascinating discussion about narcissist spouses and divorce over at the New York Times Well blog. The title of the article is Divorcing a Narcissist. The article and interview is quite interesting, too. Once of the questions that Tara Parker Pope asks of author, therapist Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family is:
Q: In a divorce, everybody is hurt and angry. How is a divorce from a narcissist any different?A: The narcissist doesn’t get over it. Other people are hurt and angry and go through their own divorce adjustment, but they tend to move on and get over it. The narcissist will continue to try to blame their partner and harm their partner. They do it by these long, extended, contentious divorce cases that cost hundreds of thousands of dollars.
The answer is painful and it’s very very true. Knowing the truth, being dedicated to the truth can help a person cope more effectively.
The comments section of this brief interview are filled with chilling remarks. Hundreds of individuals recount the lengths they went to deal with the divorce of the narcissist. Reading the comments alone may be helpful to some because they reinforce the feeling that you are not alone.
Here is the link to Well: Divorcing a Narcissist [NYTimes].