We are told a parent’s greatest gift is to instill in a child positive self-regard. One of the ways the parent helps the child along this path is by acting as a mirror.
Developmentally, the infant self is referenced in conjunction with the parent. The parent is there to support the child’s self-discovery by being a constant, stable force in the child’s world. It’s this connection that forms the foundation, then springboard, then doorway to the child’s eventual independence. The parent understands that the days of parent-child referencing are over and that they and the child are two separate, whole individuals.
Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist
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