The child’s development and behavior become about the narcissist—because everything eventually becomes about the narcissist. The child, at the earliest stages, learns to acquiesce to keep their n parent from emotionally abandoning them. Nothing the child does can prevent the abandonment. Once you understand this, your own fear of abandonment may lessen, and you will see your parent more clearly.
Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist
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