Stop Focusing on the Narcissist

“I’m always thinking about the narcissist. Deep inside, before the relationship started to decline, I knew things were already fracturing, decaying, dying. But I didn’t know what to do. Soon I will learn how to focus on myself. I trust that I will look back on these early days of awakening as a gift. Many people fear the intensity of such emotion and are seduced back into the narcissistic dynamic. Rarely does going back into the relationship—or the relationship dynamic—keep difficult emotions at bay. It typically intensifies because the focus—whether I realize it or not—is on the narcissist.”

Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery