The “smoke-and-mirrors” aspect of narcissism can make it tough to pin down. But once I begin to understand and see the nuances, I feel my own healing take hold. Healing is not always what I expect. Sometimes it feels revitalizing, other times it seems to bring more hurt. If I surrender to the process I will reach a place of neutrality, where my focus is no longer on the pain or even on the healing, but on living my life.
Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery