A healthier, nontoxic way of being in a relationship with your n parent would be for you to figure out, based on internal cues, where you may or may not have misstepped. You may see that what you are feeling bad about having done or said is not actually something you did or say, but rather something that the narcissist did or said. However, the convoluted dynamic would be complete when you apologize for it. By saying, “No thank you” to this, you are actually rescuing yourself.
Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist
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