Perceived Abandonment by the Narcissist

Sometimes the littlest things I said or did—all having to do with caring for myself—set the narcissist off.

Whenever it had to do with me focusing on myself, the narcissist got a little colder, a little more hostile. I understand, today, that this was the narcissist’s reaction to a perceived abandonment—by me.

Part of my self-care is recognizing how I was manipulated by the narcissist to not take care of myself.

Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery