My books have helped thousands to step back, and away, from the damaging effects of a narcissistic person, whether it’s a present-day relationship or one that has haunted them from the past. Now, they may help you, too.

Narcissist ruining your life?

Maybe you love one. Or work for one. Maybe you’re related to one. Or were raised by one. Whatever the relationship, you’ve likely been hurt by the narcissist in your life.

“The narcissist manipulates, projects, attacks, and makes nice to their child—to keep the focus on the narcissist. This is what makes narcissists so dependent, no matter how bossy and independent they seem. It explains why their parenting style can fluctuate from extreme rigidity to utter laxness, from authoritarian to best friend. The narcissist parent is always seeking to meet their own needs. This does not reflect on or have anything to do with what the child needs.”

Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist

See the n’s wrath for what it is: a desperate attempt to keep you engaged.

Some of us are scared to step away. We have seen the n retaliate; we have experienced his or her wrath. Understand how important it is to recognize that the wrath is simply another way the n tries to rope you back in. If an n really wants nothing to do with you, they will turn up the cold and frost you out. As you gain more strength in dealing with the n, it’s wise to be prepared for the wrath, the frost and where the n recognizes they can no longer push you around.

Adapted from Narcissism: Surviving the Self-Involved

In her article titled “How to Stop Thinking About Something That’s Bothering You” author Amy Morin explains how negative thinking impacts our mood. She writes:

“Feeling down or thinking about unpleasant things isn’t always bad. Sometimes, it’s part of the healing process…it’s important to differentiate between ruminating and problem-solving. If you’re dwelling on the problem, you’re ruminating. If you’re actively looking for solutions, you’re problem-solving…Problem-solving can help you move forward. But ruminating will hold you back. If you’re ruminating, you need to change the channel.”

Read the article featured on Inc. here

Deep down, I know that the narcissist is going to do the things narcissists do, and that those things eventually hurt me. Today, my goal is only to be neutral about my situation. When a feeling comes up, I notice it and feel it, then watch it subside. By noticing my feelings, I am less susceptible to slipping into denial.

I remember that narcissism is an illness that is too big for me to fix no matter how much I try, care, hurt, or love.

Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery

In a piece featured on Harvard Business Review, Michael Gervais, PhD, details how we are often held back by the opinions of others. He explains:

“If you start paying less and less attention to what makes you you — your talents, beliefs, and values — and start conforming to what others may or may not think, you’ll harm your potential. You’ll start playing it safe because you’re afraid of what will happen on the other side of the critique. You’ll fear being ridiculed or rejected. When challenged, you’ll surrender your viewpoint. You won’t raise your hand when you can’t control the outcome. You won’t go for that promotion because you won’t think you’re qualified.”

Read the article here

Jonathan Lambert’s interview with author Fritz Breithaupt offers an interesting look at empathy. Breithaupt explains its darker side:

“Vampiristic empathy is a form of empathy where people want to manipulate the people they empathize with so that they can, through them, experience the world in such a way that they really enjoy it.”

Read “Does Empathy Have A Dark Side?” on NPR here

In an article on, contributor Stephanie Sarkis explains how to properly identify and handle a gaslighting, narcissistic boss. Sarkis writes:

“A gaslighting/narcissist boss isn’t just ignorant—he lives for getting power and control over others. There is nothing better to a gaslighter/narcissist than to make you feel dependent on them for your job, while at the same time he sabotages and insults you.  Gaslighters/narcissists can be covert or overt.  Overt gaslighters/narcissists will embarrass you in front of others, treat you terribly in front of office guests, and brag about their accomplishments. Covert gaslighters/narcissists use sneakier methods to exert their power…”

Read the article here

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