“Inferiority is an issue for an individual with narcissism. This often includes feeling inferior to one’s offspring. If a parent struggles with their own sense of worth, this can be passed on to their child. In other words, the child acts less than the parent so that the parent can be greater than the child.”
Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist
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“Viewing narcissism as a disease rather than simply a list of annoying traits can help us remember this truth: someone is sick with a particular disease and that someone is not you.”
Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery
“Manipulation come in a variety of packages; we often know when we’re being played but might not pay attention to the voice within that is telling us to steer clear. The person, after all, seems so nice, and everyone talks so highly of them. While there are many authentically, genuinely nice, down-to-earth people, the narcissist is the one who seems too good to be true.”
Adapted From Narcissism: Surviving the Self-Involved
In an article on Vox.com, Brian Resnick explores the concept of Intellectual Humility, depicting why it’s so difficult but important to admit when we are wrong. After exploring various scientific studies, Resnick writes:
“To be intellectually humble doesn’t mean giving up on the ideas we love and believe in. It just means we need to be thoughtful in choosing our convictions, be open to adjusting them, seek out their flaws, and never stop being curious about why we believe what we believe. Again, that’s not easy.”
Read the article here
“Letting go can trigger feelings of loss and abandonment. Perhaps the fear of the abandonment is an echo of the abandonment you’ve felt most of your life. These thoughts are old wounds resurfacing in order to be examined, cleansed, and healed—by you. Only you can heal them now.” Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist
“As a friend, partner, acquaintance or coworker of someone who is narcissistic, we may see their cloak, or facade. Their disguise is an act and signifies a lack of authentic self. The pain of facing this lack is too much to bear for the narcissist—so they rail against it and attack anyone they perceive as having forced them to confront their own deficiencies. That is when we begin to see the manipulative side of the narcissistic person that causes us the most pain.” Adapted from NARCISSISM: SURVIVING THE SELF-INVOLVED
In a post featured on Psychology Today, Elinor Greenberg, Ph.D. explains what can happen when you enter a friendship with a narcissist. Greenberg writes:
“People with narcissistic personality disorder have little or no emotional empathy. They can also be devaluing about other people. Eventually, your narcissistic friend is likely to say something that hurts your feelings, offends you, or embarrasses you in public. If you are the sensitive type who cannot brush these things off or who worries what the people at the next table are thinking when you friend insults the waiter or loudly tells you about the ugly dress the woman at the next table is wearing, you probably do not want many narcissists as friends. You will find their behavior too jarring and insensitive to other people.”
Read “Can You Be Friends With a Narcissist?” here
“Despite a wealth of charisma almost too good to be true, the narcissist is riddled with neediness, loneliness, fear and rage. These feelings, which have festered and mutated (by virtue of being ignored) are terribly frightening and, thus, must be pushed away more and more.”
In an article from the Berkeley Haas Newsroom, Michael Blanding discusses Professor Jennifer Chatman’s paper published in The Leadership Quarterly. The paper examines narcissistic CEOs in the workplace. In particular, Chatman and colleagues determined that narcissistic CEOs are more likely to involve their companies in lawsuits. Blanding writes:
“…Chatman and her colleagues’ research joins a growing body of literature that shows that narcissism isn’t merely an annoying personality trait that carries with it some ancillary benefits; rather, it can be dangerous to a company’s long-term stability and bottom line.”
Read “So sue me: Why narcissistic CEOs can get their firms in legal trouble” here