My books have helped thousands to step back, and away, from the damaging effects of a narcissistic person, whether it’s a present-day relationship or one that has haunted them from the past. Now, they may help you, too.

Narcissist ruining your life?

Maybe you love one. Or work for one. Maybe you’re related to one. Or were raised by one. Whatever the relationship, you’ve likely been hurt by the narcissist in your life.

When certain, negative beliefs are ascribed by a narcissistic parent, a child’s psyche suffers. This realization requires self-awareness in adulthood in order to create change.

Read “You Can’t Heal the Narcissist but You Can Heal Your Life” featured on Psychology Today here

“If you don’t disengage, you remain in the insanity and you prolong the anxiety of letting go…What you hold for the narcissist harms you and creates anxiety. Give it back.” Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist 

In an article from the New York Times titled “How To Harness Your Anxiety” Dr. Alicia H. Clark explains how we can transform moderate anxiety into something resourceful and positive. Clark writes:

“For a variety of reasons, we are engaged in a feedback loop with anxiety. Fearing it, and in response, trying to avoid it or push it down, is part of what can make it such a problem for us. It feels like an obstacle because we have been treating it as such. But the less we fear anxiety and can embrace it, the more useful and helpful it can be.”

Read the article here

Narcissists often harbor deep feelings of inferiority. Often, narcissistic parents transfer this trait to their children.

Read “12 Ways of Seeing Your Entanglement With a Narcissist” on Psychology Today here

“As the child discovers their separateness from their parent, the parent is there to support their child’s self-discovery by being a constant, stable force in the child’s world. This connection forms the foundation… to the child’s eventual independence…The parent understands that the days of parent-child referencing are over, and that they and the child are two separate, whole individuals.”

Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist 

“A narcissistic parent manipulates, projects, attacks, and makes nice to their child—to keep the focus on the narcissist. Their parenting style can fluctuate from authoritarian to best friend. They are always seeking to meet their own needs. This does not reflect on or have anything to do with what the child needs.” Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist 

In a blog post featured on Psychology Today, Erin Leonard Ph.D. offers five tips on how to best co-parent with a narcissist. Leonard writes:

“…A narcissist has minimal ability to understand another person’s perspective…Often, a narcissist lacks empathy, which is what a child needs to thrive emotionally. They are able to sympathize because they become the powerful saver and rescuer, which strokes their ego. Yet, pity strips children of their self efficacy and teaches them to play the victim.”

Read “Co-Parenting with a Narcissist” here

“I’m growing more interested in the subtle cues. I’m beginning to understand that this is my intuition, which I can also think of as my heart and mind working in union. The more I practice paying attention, the stronger my ability to follow my intuition becomes. I listen to the spaces between words.” Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery

An article on chronicles the importance of using our intuition. Rose Leadem explains:

“So why do so few people ignore their intuition? Simple: we’re conditioned to…Even as children, we’re told things such as “adults are always right.” We’re trained to listen to what we’re told, not make our own judgments and ultimately, not to follow our intuition.”

Read “Habits of People Who Trust Their Intuition” featuring an interesting infographic here

Oxford Dictionary has chosen “toxic” as the “Word of the Year” for 2018. In a video on Twitter, Oxford states:

“…this year more than ever, people have been using ‘toxic’ to describe a vast array of things, situations, concerns and events.”

The video explains how the word is used as a metaphor to describe situations and personalities. Unequivocally, “toxic” describes actions and behaviors of the narcissist.

Check out the video offering examples and explaining the origins of the word “toxic” here

In a blog post on, Melissa Burkley Ph.D. explains the  differences between the narcissistic traits between democrats and republicans via maladaptive facets of narcissism including entitlement and exhibitionism. Burke cites a study conducted before the 2016 election:

“…When it came to entitlement, those who were high in this facet of narcissism were much more likely to hold conservative political views. They were more likely to oppose a tax raise, gun control, and policies that would allow refugees or immigrants to enter the country. Essentially, these “Red Narcissists” believe that their group is more deserving of certain benefits and rights than other groups…

And what about exhibitionism? Interestingly, the exact opposite pattern emerged for this facet of narcissism. People high in exhibitionism tended to hold liberal political views on taxes, gun control, and immigration. However, unlike their red brethren, these “Blue Narcissists” demonstrated a much stronger identification with their own political party….”

Read “How to Spot a Red Narcissist Versus a Blue Narcissist” here

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