A parent’s job is to act as a mirror for their child through visual, tactile, auditory, and sensory feedback. However, the narcissistic parent looks into their child’s eyes seeking self-validation.
This lack of authentic attention is a kind of abandonment. Pretending that an n parent is emotionally available is not uncommon. It becomes a means of holding out hope that the parent will become present.
Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist