Denial can be a kind of protective shock absorber, a part of the grieving process when something important ends. When the qualities of denial overextend, when I inadvertently label it “hope” or call it “trying harder to make things work”, I masquerade my attempts because I’ve not been ready to make a change. Even though the relationship is getting worse, and I’m increasingly unhappy in it, I keep trying.
Today I will do something different.
I ask myself if “trying harder” has distracted me from seeing what I don’t want to see. Today I am not afraid of the answer.”
Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery