The more I accept exactly what the situation is, and how the narcissist is—something that might be thought of as being “dedicated to reality”—the better off I am. Reality is in the present, not the past. There is a certain kind of mourning that goes with letting go of the illusion and seeing that the relationship is not what I thought it was going to be.
I trust that accepting reality without trying to change or judge it is a powerful tool that helps me heal. Today I practice being dedicated to reality.
Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery