If one cannot experience love, is an “I love you” even possible? Dear [____], You’re my favorite. My star. You hold the key to the universe that is me. Actually, right now I hold the key. And I promise to give it to you. When I’m ready. I’ll never be ready. It’s cute how you [...]
“The narcissist manipulates, projects, attacks, and makes nice to their child—to keep the focus on the narcissist. This is what makes narcissists so dependent, no matter how bossy and independent they seem. It explains why their parenting style can fluctuate from extreme rigidity to utter laxness, from authoritarian to best friend. The narcissist parent is always [...]
I receive many emails from readers of the Narcissism Series books. I love hearing your personal stories and feel good that you trust me to share them. I’m so glad my books have helped. I try to respond to all notes personally. However, if you’ve written to me through the Contact Form on this website, [...]
Several years ago I appeared on Alisa Bowman’s former site, Project Happily Ever After. The site is no longer—though she does have a book of the same name—and yet I wanted to share some of the dialogue Alisa and I had about narcissism and union. I will be posting snippets in the coming weeks that might help [...]
As we move toward “The Days” (Mother’s Day and Father’s Day) I wrote a piece for PsychologyToday.com about looking back across the family life cycle as a way to understand, holistically, the narcissist/narcissistic dynamic. I started thinking about the issue of aging, and how the individual roles shift as family members get older. And I started thinking that [...]
I’m forever noticing ways how narcissism presents, and looking for examples to share to help people view the disorder in a slightly different way to view the disease more holistically. This book review by Maureen Corrigan, NPR book critic, of Harper Lee’s newly released novel Go Set a Watchman (GSAW) is a good find for [...]
Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery–Whether You’re Loving, Leaving, or Living With One is on sale. My newest book includes 30 days of guided meditations to help get you through the crucial first thirty days of recovery from the narcissist. Here is an excerpt from the section titled: A Meditation on Recovery From the [...]
This book review in the New York Times about a a biography by Adam Begley about John Updike (an author whose work I happen to like so very much) made me think about desperation and narcissism. (Not the book review specifically, but about what it says about John Updike.) And it made me a little [...]
It took me some time to figure that out – and then some more time to accept it. You, too? This article, 18 signs you’re dealing with a narcissist, points out the variations in how narcissism can manifest in different individuals. Some of the qualities seem in conflict with one another. But then again, narcissists [...]
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