News & Reflections

In a post on Psychology Today titled “Why Do Narcissists Need to Outdo Everyone Else?” Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D. cites new research explaining the differences between high self-esteem, the need to be liked by others, and true narcissism. “In distinguishing between self-esteem and narcissism…researchers note that both refer to a form of self-regard. Self-esteem is defined as [...]

The parent-child relationship is inherently rich with emotion, but when the parent is a narcissist the child is often fraught with confusion and filled with inexplicable desperation as the parent says: “What is wrong with you?”   This is one of the reasons the child of a narcissist slips into anxiety quicker than anger. Becoming [...]

An article from the New York Times by Benedict Carey examines how abusive relationships often begin, underscoring the self-doubt and shame victims frequently feel. The article quotes psychologist Patricia Pape who offers: “It often starts in a very insidious way,”… “He says, ‘Don’t put Sweet-and-Low in your coffee, it’s poisonous.’ “Then, ‘When you wear that [...]

“Healing is not always what I expect. Sometimes it feels revitalizing, other times it seems to bring more hurt. I trust that if I surrender to the process of healing, I will reach a place of neutrality, where my focus is no longer on the pain or even on the healing, but on living my [...]

“It’s human nature for a child to crave their parent’s affection and to want to be seen as special and valuable in their parent’s eyes. For acts of caring and uniqueness and sincerity to be noticed. But from the very beginning, the narcissist parent lacks the ability to do this. Narcissism, as a disease, carries [...]

In  article on the Huffington Post titled “6 Glaring Signs Your Friend Is A Narcissist” Brittany Wong interviews experts and therapists about dealing with narcissistic friends. “A friend will ask you for help, and you gladly comply. This is what friends do. If your friend is narcissistic, your act of [giving advice] will eventually be [...]

In response to an article about a psychologist accused of sexual misconduct, Felice J. Freyer of the Boston Globe writes that approximately 9-12% of mental health professionals admit to sexual misconduct and unlawful relationships with patients. Shockingly, these percentages may be underestimated. Andrea Celenza, a psychoanalyst who studies therapist-patient sexual misconduct says: “…some are predators [...]

As a child, you likely did not understand the depth of your narcissistic parent’s illness. It’s often the adult child’s unhealed wound that makes one prone to clinging—and a target for clingers. As you release, your anxiety might surge (do not hesitate to seek the help of a qualified therapist). But if tolerated, it can [...]

“Instead of trying to take control of the situation and get the n happy with us again, we can simply focus on ourselves―what we want, need, feel like doing… We have to move back into our own house, so to speak. At first the rooms are bare, cold, drafty. We need to spend time getting [...]

In an article featured in The Atlantic, Adam Grant writes about how humans often lack self-awareness. Numerous studies show that we often overestimate our levels of intelligence and generosity. Grant writes: “…people spend a staggering amount of time making claims about themselves. It makes sense: You’re the only person on Earth who has direct knowledge [...]

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