News & Reflections

“When your parent is a narcissist, the echo that calls back from within is one of emptiness, loss, and longing…it informs our capacity to be in relationships. Prolonged exposure to the narcissistic parent before verbal skills develop means synthesis of the destructive dynamic…” Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist

“I’m growing more interested in the subtle cues. I’m beginning to understand that this is my intuition, which I can also think of as my heart and mind working in union. The more I practice paying attention, the stronger my ability to follow my intuition becomes. I listen to the spaces between words.” Adapted from Surviving [...]

“Being nothing is the core fear of the narcissist. They know they are deficient, so they react in desperation. They need another person to prove to themselves they exist. You are that person, whether they are elevating you or knocking you down. They only exist if the light is shining on them.” Adapted from Narcissism: Surviving [...]

Oxford Dictionary has chosen “toxic” as the “Word of the Year” for 2018. In a video on Twitter, Oxford states: “…this year more than ever, people have been using ‘toxic’ to describe a vast array of things, situations, concerns and events.” The video explains how the word is used as a metaphor to describe situations [...]

In a blog post on, Melissa Burkley Ph.D. explains the  differences between the narcissistic traits between democrats and republicans via maladaptive facets of narcissism including entitlement and exhibitionism. Burke cites a study conducted before the 2016 election: “…When it came to entitlement, those who were high in this facet of narcissism were much more [...]

“If you have a narcissistic parent, don’t blame yourself but do take responsibility for trying to negotiate with the “role” you’d actually like to vacate. There is no “negotiating.” Be cordial, but try to avoid making nice because it serves to strengthen the dysfunction. You’ll be putting energy back to the mess you are trying [...]

“As we pull away from the emotional effects of the narcissist, we may feel lonely and sad. The anxiety can feel as intense as when the narcissist was still in our life. But these feelings will ease as we heal and take care of ourselves.” Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery In [...]

“When you are first coming out of denial, the anxiety spills over. Denial, to some extent, thwarts anxiety about the original issue of concern. But it also causes its own set of secondary anxiety due to all the issues that have remained unaddressed.” Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist  In a blog post featured [...]

In healthy development, the parent “exists” for the sake of the child. With the narcissistic parent, the child “exists” for the sake of the parent. You may be the child of a narcissist if you’ve been: blamed for causing their discomfort accused of doing what the narcissist is doing (and denying)—being cold, selfish, manipulative, and [...]

Fleetwood Mac’s 1975 song “Over My Head” depicts a tumultuous, yet alluring relationship. In the lyrics, Christine McVie echos how one might feel when they’re dealing with a narcissist. In particular, the metaphor of an ever-changing circus wheel certainly reflects the “hot and cold” and “off and on” aspect of a narcissist’s behavior. You can [...]

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