News & Reflections

“For the narcissist, true union is much too frightening…joining represents loss of self. The narcissistic person, rather, will annihilate the other in order to “live.” Now add a child to the dynamic. We see the potential for the narcissistic person to grow increasingly jealous, envious, and enraged as their child threatens to transfer the affection [...]

In a post featured on Psychology Today, Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT writes about covert narcissism. Lancer explains: “On the surface, they can be hard to identify. These narcissists may appear shy, humble, or anxious. Their gratification may be indirect through their emotional investment in someone they admire. They take things personally and feel distrustful, mistreated, [...]

“Today I understand that my feelings about the narcissist and about myself need not interfere with my recovery. I recognize that recovery is about slowly gaining perspective and insight about myself to better heal and grow…I understand that recovery is not a race to finish. Recovery is another name for healing, growing, changing, and, perhaps, [...]

Think of a motion picture projector, how it projects a picture out there, on the wall. For the narcissist, other people are the walls and they are the projector. Bad feelings are relegated to the other person (“Why are you always in a foul mood?” “Why do you always have to have your way?” “You [...]

In an article featured on Insider.com, Lindsay Dodgson explains the difference between healthy and toxic anger. The article quotes psychologist Perpetua Neo who says: “When anger is a constant and disruptive part of your life, though, that’s when it’s not so useful. In relationships, it’s normal to argue. But if you’re consistently raging at each [...]

“Inferiority is an issue for an individual with narcissism. This often includes feeling inferior to one’s offspring. If a parent struggles with their own sense of worth, this can be passed on to their child. In other words, the child acts less than the parent so that the parent can be greater than the child.” [...]

“Manipulation come in a variety of packages; we often know when we’re being played but might not pay attention to the voice within that is telling us to steer clear. The person, after all, seems so nice, and everyone talks so highly of them. While there are many authentically, genuinely nice, down-to-earth people, the narcissist [...]

In an article on Vox.com, Brian Resnick explores the concept of Intellectual Humility, depicting why it’s so difficult but important to admit when we are wrong. After exploring various scientific studies, Resnick writes: “To be intellectually humble doesn’t mean giving up on the ideas we love and believe in. It just means we need to [...]

“Letting go can trigger feelings of loss and abandonment. Perhaps the fear of the abandonment is an echo of the abandonment you’ve felt most of your life. These thoughts are old wounds resurfacing in order to be examined, cleansed, and healed—by you. Only you can heal them now.” Adapted from When Your Parent Is a [...]

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