Healing from narcissistic abuse

Letting go can trigger feelings of loss and abandonment…perhaps the fear of the abandonment you’ll feel, an echo of the abandonment you’ve already felt most of your life but suppressed. These are the thoughts of a child in an adult’s body, of old wounds that are resurfacing. They are resurfacing in order to be examined, [...]

“With the narcissist parent, a real attachment to their child remains in question. This helps explain why the notion of a child’s launch and independence is so threatening. Launching, or letting go, evokes the narcissist’s deepest fears: abandonment, annihilation, and non-existence. Without the Other—the child—the narcissist may cease to exist.” Adapted from When Your Parent [...]

The longer I avoid a problem the bigger it becomes. What am I trying to avoid? By asking this question, I become open to discovering the real issue, which brings me closer to actually addressing it. I trust that addressing the real problem will help me heal. Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of [...]

A blog post featured on Scientific American examines what being authentic actually means. Scott Barry Kaufman writes: “Healthy authenticity is not about going around saying whatever is on your mind, or actualizing all of your potentialities, including your darkest impulses. Instead, healthy authenticity, of the sort that helps you become a whole person, involves accepting [...]

You will likely be caught completely off guard and left confused and wounded by what the narcissist in your life does next. One minute, it’s all sweetness and light. The next, it’s the silent treatment. The narcissist may withhold communication, affection, attention, or suddenly act like they do not understand why you are behaving a [...]

Narcissism is a widely misunderstood condition. In an article on Psychology Today titled “Meet the Real Narcissists (They’re Not What You Think)” Rebecca Webber breaks down common misconceptions and stereotypes and explains what labeling someone a narcissist actually means. The term narcissist has been widely deployed to describe not only a passel of difficult relatives [...]

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