“It’s important to understand that the narcissist parent cannot see what’s real—the real you or anyone else. There may be moments when the parent appears to connect. The closeness feels very personal and rich. You may not want to believe it is a manipulation. You may fiercely defend your parent. You may take on traits of the parent and unwittingly act them out with others, coming to the parent’s defense. Then you are blamed for it and you are hurt.
Your age doesn’t matter—you are the child and you want to be loved by your parents—and much of this is happening on an unconscious and, perhaps, energetic level.”
Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist