Use Your Feelings To Heal

Feelings are not reality, but they are often excellent indicators of my thoughts about my relationships and the actions I’ve taken in my relationships. Do I feel lousy? Like a failure? Like I’m not blessed the way others are? By no longer dismissing my feelings, I can use them as tools for healing. If a relationship does not feel good, why am I staying?

If I must or choose to stay in a relationship—or if I need to have contact with the narcissist—what can I do differently that feels better, without hurting myself in the long run?

Adapted from Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery