Recognizing Manipulation

“Manipulations come in a variety of packages; we often know in our hearts when we’re being played, but might not pay attention to the voice within that is telling us to steer clear…the narcissist is the one who seems too good to be true.” from Narcissism: Surviving the Self-Involved

In a blog post on Psychologytoday.com titled “Are You Being Manipulated?,” Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT chronicles common manipulation tactics and how we can recognize and ultimately detach from them in our lives.

“…Manipulation is a way to covertly influence someone with indirect, deceptive, or abusive tactics. Manipulation may seem benign or even friendly or flattering, as if the person has your highest concern in mind, but in reality it’s to achieve an ulterior motive. Other times, it’s veiled hostility, and when abusive methods are used, the objective is merely power. You may not realize that you’re being intimidated….On the surface the manipulator may use words that are pleasant, ingratiating, reasonable, or …so you override your instincts and don’t know what to say.”

Read the blog post here