These simple steps can help break open the obsession cycle with the n. Practice may be necessary.
Recognize. Recognize that the obsession with the n is something you have grown accustomed to, and understand that removing it will be uncomfortable. Don’t let that stop you from moving on.
Regroup. Bring the focus back to you, your life and your needs. Ask: What do I need to do to take care of myself just for now? Try to get used to focusing on yourself, without blame or pity.
Replace. Make a short-term commitment to focus on yourself and fill your mind with healthy thoughts. Dedicate yourself to reality.
And remember: Let Go or Be Dragged—American Proverb