News & Reflections

In a post on Psychology Today titled “Why Narcissists Thrive On Chaos” Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D. chronicles a study conducted by Sindes Dawood and Aaron Pincus of Pennsylvania State University. The study determined a link between narcissism and frenzied behavior. Whitbourne writes: “It might strike you that people who insist on coming across as unbelievably [...]

When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is important to recognize the difference between power and control. “I have lived in an illusion that I could control the outcome of the relationship, that if I wanted something bad enough in a relationship I valued, I should be able to make it work. [...]

Using scientific facts, research, and data, Eric Barker’s article on The Ladders explains the “narcissism epidemic.” The article also offers five ways to deal with narcissists. Barker writes: “Dealing with a narcissist regularly is like having a pet tiger: you always have to be careful that one day he’s gonna see you as dinner. But if [...]

“It’s important to understand that the narcissist parent cannot see what’s real—the real you or anyone else. There may be moments when the parent appears to connect. The closeness feels very personal and rich. You may not want to believe it is a manipulation. You may fiercely defend your parent. You may take on traits [...]

This excerpt from T.S. Eliot’s 1949 play “The Cocktail Party” encapsulates the narcissist experience. “Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm; but the harm does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because [...]

In a blog post titled “Narcissistic Friends: What’s the Attraction?” featured on Psychology Today, Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D. explains what being friends with a narcissist often entails. White also explains why so many people, especially women, struggle to disengage from these toxic friendships. Although befriending a narcissist isn’t quite the same as engaging in a relationship hallmarked [...]

Feelings are not reality, but they are often excellent indicators of my thoughts about my relationships and the actions I’ve taken in my relationships. Do I feel lousy? Like a failure? Like I’m not blessed the way others are? By no longer dismissing my feelings, I can use them as tools for healing. If a [...]

Dwelling on negative thoughts, known as ruminating, is understandably detrimental to mental health and wellness. However, in an article titled “The Hazards of Rumination for Your Mental and Physical Health” featured on U.S. News, Stacey Colino points out that persistent ruminating can cause physical consequences as well. Colino writes: “…research has linked this tendency toward [...]

You will likely be caught completely off guard and left confused and wounded by what the narcissist in your life does next. One minute, it’s all sweetness and light. The next, it’s the silent treatment. The narcissist may withhold communication, affection, attention, or suddenly act like they do not understand why you are behaving a [...]

I have options. I need not hold onto the fantasy of my relationship any longer. How I see myself and the narcissist is evolving on a daily basis. I’m allowed to change my mind, to stand up for myself. I also know that I’m not always the expert—nor do I need to be. I am [...]

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