News & Reflections

This excerpt from T.S. Eliot’s 1949 play “The Cocktail Party” encapsulates the narcissist experience. “Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm; but the harm does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because [...]

In a blog post titled “Narcissistic Friends: What’s the Attraction?” featured on Psychology Today, Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D. explains what being friends with a narcissist often entails. White also explains why so many people, especially women, struggle to disengage from these toxic friendships. Although befriending a narcissist isn’t quite the same as engaging in a relationship hallmarked [...]

Feelings are not reality, but they are often excellent indicators of my thoughts about my relationships and the actions I’ve taken in my relationships. Do I feel lousy? Like a failure? Like I’m not blessed the way others are? By no longer dismissing my feelings, I can use them as tools for healing. If a [...]

Dwelling on negative thoughts, known as ruminating, is understandably detrimental to mental health and wellness. However, in an article titled “The Hazards of Rumination for Your Mental and Physical Health” featured on U.S. News, Stacey Colino points out that persistent ruminating can cause physical consequences as well. Colino writes: “…research has linked this tendency toward [...]

You will likely be caught completely off guard and left confused and wounded by what the narcissist in your life does next. One minute, it’s all sweetness and light. The next, it’s the silent treatment. The narcissist may withhold communication, affection, attention, or suddenly act like they do not understand why you are behaving a [...]

I have options. I need not hold onto the fantasy of my relationship any longer. How I see myself and the narcissist is evolving on a daily basis. I’m allowed to change my mind, to stand up for myself. I also know that I’m not always the expert—nor do I need to be. I am [...]

A new study from the University of Liverpool featured in BMC Psychiatry shows that having a companion animal can be tremendously helpful for those with mental health struggles. From instilling a sense of purpose to encouraging physical activity and social connectedness, pets offer numerous benefits. Lead researcher Dr. Helen Louise Brooks determines: “Pets could contribute to a [...]

Focusing on your narcissistic parent might be like a default setting in your brain—you always return to the same place. This is how you’ve been trained by the narcissistic parent to elevate them. By elevating and asking for them to absolve you, for example, you’ve essentially given your power to them. The healthier, nontoxic way of [...]

In December 2017, The New Yorker published a short story titled “Cat Person” by Kristen Roupenian. Highlighting gender expectations, dynamics and the intersection of consent and appropriate behavior, Roupenian explores a brief relationship between Margot, a college student and the older man starts dating, Robert. As her interactions with Robert begins to turn, Margot feels [...]

Famous and wealthy men often get a “pass” when it comes to narcissistic behavior, harassment, and abuse. The personal misdeeds of performers, directors, and Hollywood executives are often overshadowed by their successful careers. In an article from The New York Times, Amanda Hess explains that we can longer separate the art from the artist. Hess [...]

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