News & Reflections

In an article titled "Get Happy: Four Well-Being Workouts" from The New York Times, Julie Scelfo identifies four ways to cultivate happiness using tools from positive psychology. Scelfo quotes Martin E.P. Seligman, a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania who says: "'Psychology is generally focused on how to relieve depression, anger and worry...Freud [...]

“...In these early days of my recovery, I am working on myself, developing new habits, healthier routines, and a more realistic outlook. I remind myself that everything new takes practice to feel natural. Self-care and self-focus, because I’m not used to them, can make me uncomfortable. That’s okay. The key is to be gentle with [...]

The number of resentments individuals have with a narcissist typically correlates to how invested they are in their narcissist’s life. Often, this investment in the narcissist surpasses the interest in their own life. Think of anger as an emotion that arises from a single incident. The incident will typically make us feel out of control, [...]

A narcissistic parent will often subjugate a child's simple need for attention. As a result of this dynamic the child may: -Perceive himself as an appendage of the parent, with traits that must be routinely and often haphazardly approved of by the parent in order to keep from being amputated and discarded -Perceive himself as [...]

In her essay titled "Experts in the Field" author Bonnie Nadzam opens up about her experience with an exploitative, abusive teacher and the impact it has had on her life. She writes: “I continue to witness their success and public adoration and the celebration of not only their work, but also of them personally. I [...]

From the narcissistic parent’s point of view, the child is a vehicle to temper their own intense fears. This can manifest in the following ways: Withholding: The narcissist parent may withhold communication, love, and attention Blaming: Going on the offensive by publicly telling everyone (sometimes telling you, sometimes not) how wrong you are and how [...]

An article from BusinessInsider.com titled “What Happens When You Break-Up With A Narcissist?” by Lindsey Dodgson offers tips on how to handle a break-up with a narcissist. Dodgson writes: “One minute you may feel like everything your partner has ever wanted, and the next you're left wondering what on Earth went wrong. This is because [...]

An insightful article from The Washington Post titled “What Happens When Narcissists Become Parents” by Jody Allard discusses how narcissistic parenting impacts children when they reach adulthood. Allard explains: “Children aren’t equipped to handle that disconnection from their primary caregivers. They need parents who are consistent, available and unconditionally approving to form secure attachments. As [...]

In healthy development, the parent “exists” for the sake of the child. With the narcissistic parent, the child “exists” for the sake of the parent. You may be the child of a narcissist if you’ve been: -Blamed for causing their discomfort -Accused of doing what the narcissist is doing (and denying)―being cold, selfish, manipulative, and [...]

In his blog post on PsychologyToday.com titled "Narcissist or Just Self-Centered? 4 Ways to Tell,” Robert Taibbi, L.C.S.W lists the similarities and key differences between narcissistic traits and changeable self-centered behaviors. Taibbi writes: "The fine line here is the degree to which narcissists seek not only attention but also don't listen to others or only [...]

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