I’m more and more of the opinion that people have gotten so “skilled” at projecting a certain image of how they want to see themselves to the public via the web and social media that when it comes down to really doing the work or being who they really are they are often at a loss for how to conduct themselves. This used to happen, publicly anyway, mostly only to celebrities. But now it’s more mainstream and common. What does the anonymity of a computer screen do to the person who feels like a black hole inside? Perhaps gives them another place to project the image they thing the world wants. From there they are unable to keep up that image because it is not real. Like everything else, it’s a projection.

 

 

 

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Texas journalist Ruth Pennebaker, creator of the award-winning Fabulous Geezer Sisters blog about, in part, living a life void of game playing and false pretenses. She interviewed me about the first 30 days of recovery.

About Surviving the Narcissist; 30 Days of Recovery she writes:

“…it’s a deceptively simple book on taking care of yourself — wise, understated, and calm, like a good friend. It’s about taking your life back after you’ve been blindsided by trouble. And the trouble, I kept thinking, didn’t necessarily have to be a narcissist.”

Read 30 Days to Something Better here.

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Marriage and narcissism: is there a happily ever after?

Award-winning blogger and New York Times best-selling author and journalist Alisa Bowman interviews me about relationships in her post How To Stay Married to a Narcissist on the site Project: Happily Ever After. Her questions include: Assuming you are married to a narcissist, is divorce the only option? and How does someone live with a [...]

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A post about how anyone can be a jerk and also that it doesn’t mean you’re a narcissist

Anyone can be a jerk. You don’t have to have a “diagnosis” to be one. Author and journalist Ruth Pennebaker writes about her own revelation in this matter, and how when she revealed her own concern about being not-her-best self, what happened: Read it here: “On not being one of those people.”

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Meditation to begin recovery from the effects of narcissism

Surviving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery–Whether You’re Loving, Leaving, or Living With One is on sale. My newest book includes 30 days of guided meditations to help get you through the crucial first thirty days of recovery from the narcissist. Here is an excerpt from the section titled: A Meditation on Recovery From the [...]

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Parsing the meaning of “narcissist” in a way everyone can understand

The term narcissist has become somewhat diluted. We call people narcissists who are rude or pushy, and those who blather on about themselves without asking about anyone else. Sure, they might ultimately be “narcissists” but true narcissistic personality disorder is rare. What’s not rare, however, is the manifestation of narcissistic traits. A critical mass of [...]

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Image control and a single question: Will narcissists tell you they are narcissists?

I read the story. I shook my head. Then I nodded. Then I shook my head again. If you ask, will a narcissist tell you he or she is a narcissist? According to a new article in the journal PLOS ONE titled Development and Validation of the Single Item Narcissism Scale (SINS) that is comprised [...]

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Narcissism and Marriage featured on Project: Happily Ever After

How does narcissism look in a love relationship? What does it feel like? How do we know if what we are feeling are the effects of narcissism? New York Times Best Selling author and creator of the award-winning marriage blog, Project: Happily Ever After (with a memoir of the same name) and I discuss the [...]

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Compassion for the narcissist, perhaps~and the self

In Surviving the Self-Involved, I write about cultivating (in ourselves) compassion for the narcissist. The person with narcissism is ill. And, if we are in relationship, we have been affected, and may be contributing to the uneasy patterns of behavior. With all the pain they inflict on others, it can be easy to forget that [...]

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From APA: “A narcissistic society would be a deeply lonely place”

Those are the words of Christopher Barry, PhD, a psychology professor at the University of Southern Mississippi in the article from Monitor on Psychology, on the American Psychological Association’s website. The cover story is written by Sadie F. Dingfelder, and titled “Reflecting on Narcissism.”

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